All About Love

Updated: Dec 9, 2020



I'm reading this incredible book, "All About Love" by Bell Hooks and there's a quote I want to share with y'all.

"I am afraid that they will grow up looking for intimacy without risk, for pleasure without significant emotional investment. They will be so fearful of the pain of disappointment that they will forego the possibilities of love and joy."

It jumped out and hit me because it's so real and I believe it translates to so many things because we're afraid of so many things. You know how we grew up using pencils to write when we may need to erase something and pen when it's set? That's how many of us are going through life, approaching everything with pencils prepared to erase at any moment. Not just relationships but anything that means taking a risk. How can we build anything that lasts when in our hearts we're ready to cut and run?

What happens if we're brave enough to approach things and people with ink? This is who I am. This is what I want. This is what I'm trying to build. This is what I'm committed to seeing through. In our attempts to shield ourselves from pain and disappointment we also cut ourselves off from our ability to create something beautiful.

I'm encouraging each of us to take the risk. Approach that situation, that idea, that person with pen, committed to working at it even when it's hard. Trusting that the outcome will be worth the risk.

And when you get a chance, read the book. It's dope!

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